Staying with conflicts means staying with stress and anxieties – that is, constant negative mental chatter. You certainly can’t feel relaxed with turmoil in the mind. It is living confined inside the limited space of the left brain hemisphere. It also means living with beta brainwaves of restlessness.
Most likely these are memories of conflicts and hurt feelings that you somehow could not let go. Even now you don’t know how to let these thoughts go. Every flashback of past saps energy and aligns with negative energy. All unresolved inner conflicts block us from being happy and mentally free.
When you have to deal with private or emotional issues, visiting therapists is not the best solution. Remember, therapists can’t tell you what to do. Talking to friends or co-workers can help only as much as you feel relieved talking. But you may not be inclined to expose all your inner thoughts and feelings to them. You need to find these answers within yourself.
So how can you achieve that?
A common sense approach will follow these two following steps.
- Get stronger both physically and emotionally. Increased physical strength gives boost to your emotional health and helps you fight stress better. So start exercising regularly at least half an hour – be as vigorous as you can using body weight workouts. This strengthens neuromuscular coordination besides boosting endorphins that help release stress and give you a feeling of emotional high. Regularity is important to sustain the level of endorphins.
- Learn to relax and mentally “let go” with the help of meditation and brainwave entrainment audios. Real change comes from changes in the subconscious, not the conscious mind. You need to reprogram your subconscious with new set of beliefs and attitudes, and replace the habit of living with high frequency stress brainwaves by low frequency brainwaves of relaxation
This 2 step process is the only way to come out of the grip of the negative past. With consistent efforts you will discover that the past is leaving you making way for healthier things for the present and the future.
Quotes on PAST:
I like men who have a future and women who have a past.
Genealogists live in the past lane.
Events in the past may be roughly divided into those which probably never happened and those which do not matter.